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NINE TYPES
1 Perfectionist
2 Giver
3 Performer
4 Tragic Romantic
5 Observer
6 Devil's Advocate
7 Epicure
8 Boss
9 Mediator
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Point Three, the Performer, is the child who lost hope that
the Universe will provide and discovered that love, recognition, value and acceptance came
to those who could achieve, who could "do", and who could accomplish.
Performance, however, also must be matched with an image of success. The Three is the core
point of the "heart, or feeling, traid". The passion is deceit and the
corresponding fixation is vanity. Key issues for the Three include, but are not
limited to the following:
- Deceit
The deceit is of one's self through the unconscious adptation to, and an
identification with, a role that is deemed by the Three to be the epitome of success in a
given situation.
- Image
- Looking good is important. Image fits the context of a situation. The Three alters to
fit the situation and may appear slippery and deceptive through image.
- THREEs can be "used car salespersons" in whatever
field--and there's a part of me that loves to sell ideas and feel the approval and flow
from the crowd as I respond to their interests using their language and experiences. It's
great!
- Approval
- The Three primarily wants others to respect the Three's ability to get
things done. But the three also is keenly aware of the approving or disapproving demeanor
of the other in almost any situation.
- Doing
- The Three looks for what to do. Attention goes to doing for approval from
others. The Three is doing rather than being, and doing to fill time. The Three can
accomplish a lot in a short time and often expects non-stop performance for self.
- Tasks
- The focus is on tasks, getting things done, accomplishment. The Three
takes charge to move things along. This orientation to tasks and getting things done also
applies to leisure time, and the Three learns to control through tasks.
- Success
- One must succeed, almost at all costs. There is no reward for not winning. Goals, and
the accomplishment thereof, is what is important. Achievements and the resulting earned
rewards including both material and status is what is valued.
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- I have always been a workaholic--unfortunately for my bank account it's been in
education fields, not commerce. I drove myself through master's and doctoral programs
before I was 30 while working full time and raising a young family. Succeeding has always
been a given, not an option--and it came easily and naturally for me.
- Efficient
- Cuts corners to accomplish goals, without sacrificing doing a task well.
The three becomes hostile and displays anger at inefficiency or obstacles to tasks. The
anger comes up with the task or goal when there is interferernce with the goal.
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- I pride myself on efficiency and get a lot of pleasure from it, especially if there
is elegance that I can also bring to the task.
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- At work, I am often secretive about a difficult project, not wanting anyone to see
my work until I have figured it out and have something presentable to show. Also, to
produce something on time, I may choose cutting corners (if it isn't that noticeable) to
admitting that I'm in trouble and asking for a time extension. I will wait until almost
the end to admit such a thing. I feel that because I don't know the job perfectly
(otherwise I wouldn't be behind) my client won't think I'm worth my pay. I usually avoid
these fears by being highly efficient! I've been "getting off" on my skills,
whether they be figuring out a new computer program or figuring out how to appear
"together" in a new situation. But the motivation for all this efficiency has
been to keep my fears at bay. I genuinely like being efficient, but it's like being in
service to the devil for me to continue using efficiency to keep feelings repressed.
- Competitive
- Emphasis can be upon competing and winning. "No one remembers who
comes in second." The competitive posture induces pressure and impatience.
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- Feelings
- There is inattention to feelings. The Three often is too busy to deal
with feelings and sets feelings aside. Feelings "aren't there", can be set
aside. Sticking with feelings is hard work.
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- Getting mad or telling people off is a huge waste of time and energy and does not
move the project forward. So I put the feelings on the back burner and keep the project on
track--and experience the feelings later when I have time to work it through.
- Marketing Orientation
- There often is a marketing orientation in the languaging of the three
that can be recognized through references to self, to accomplishments, to success, to
performance to image to name dropping.
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